It is going to happen. Sometimes you can’t help it. When a pair of independent people with a slight variation on their opinions are placed together, there is sure to be a few squabbles. But, as long as it isn’t too frequently, it’s entirely normal to have disagreements. That’s why we’ve listed a number of recommendations below to bear in mind when you are arguing, and the actions to take after an argument as a distance couple.
In The Argument
Choose Your Words With Care
Some couples end up saying some terrible things when in a heated argument. We understand that you may be angry. And occasionally it may be their mistake. And you may totally be perfect. But just remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying a thing. This will assist in the making up process, and most critically help to guard your feelings.
Stop Talking Until You Both Have Cooled Down
Until you have calmed down it will do no good to talk to your significant other. It’s probably best to cease all conversations until you are calm and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
It’s Not About Who’s To Blame
It’s not about whose fault it is. It’s about what the issue is, and how to handle it. Perhaps you should change if it’s something they don’t like about you. A number of couples have an, “I won’t change for anyone” attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can change are the ones that have a life-long and strong relationship with one another.
Remember That You Are On The Same Side
If you’re going to progress as a couple then you’re going to have to learn how to make choices together. The choices that will determine your future. If you love each other, and are both active in the relationship, then you will both want to work to achieve the same positive end result. Always remember that you are both on the same side.
Mail An Apology Letter
A nice touch after you have made up is to send your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry about hurting their feelings. Let your partner know you do not want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your thoughts be known about the issues. You might send a present along with it to try to make amends.